Divorce Sucks and then you have SEX! Or a serious note to my offspring

Today was a very solemn moment in my life for it is the day where I ultimately lost my wife (and in a way, my family). This morning I signed off on all the “Final Orders of Dissolution” which is a Politically Correct way of saying “Divorce”. All that is left is her signature and the court’s approval. Sigh!

I’m not big on sharing this publicly but I can’t help myself today. In a few days, the life and love that I shared a common commitment with for 24 years will be represented by nothing but a stack of papers in a file that says “you failed”. It wasn’t supposed to end this way. This was not the plan. Sigh!

I did nothing other than be the best husband and father that I could be…but that was somehow not enough. And as a result, I get banished, and my three wonderful children must now live apart from me, 2,500 miles away with their mother. She gets them for 300+ days a year and I the rest, but they are ours to share for a lifetime…and I love them more than life itself.

They spent the summer here with me in Texas and we grew together as if all four of us were brothers. We laughed and fought and wrestled and taught and goofed and hugged a lot. We had a grand time.  My soul has a hole that cannot be filled by anything but their presence. I miss them dearly. Sigh!

There is so much I could say here, but I choose to express the only thing that matters…

I love my children, I miss my children and I know that they love and miss me too. My greatest hope is that I can be their hero just as they are heroes to me.

God bless you, Tillman, Layton and Harrison! You are loved!


Feed the Children! Please!!!!!!

Observations of an Occasional Parent (OOPs)

I have been responsible for my three boys this summer and I’m McLovin’ it! However there has been one issue that continues to aggravate and test my patience and that issue is…EATING!

I never in my wildest dreams would have thought that EATING would be the #1 issue of raising a child. Sleep, behavior, video games, school, drugs, prostitutes, maybe…but FOOD?!? Huh? Wha? Food is like oxygen, you eat to live, not live to eat. And what kid doesn’t like hot dogs, hamburgers and pizza? My kids!

When I was a kid, I wasn’t given much choice. I either ate what was served or I starved. I didn’t like anything but ketchup on my hamburger until I was 9 yrs old, but I still ate something that Dairy Queen provided. When my parents took me to a mexican food restaurant, I didn’t eat a Chile Relleno, but I still gobbled up a beef taco. When we went to a seafood restaurant, I may not have ordered apricot stuffed trout, but I gorged on fried shrimp! At a BBQ place I would eat a chopped beef sandwich…not chicken Mcfuckinuggets!  I could go on and on, but instead, I will present the following as brief evidence of the new (and apparently spoiled by certain parents) generation:

FOODS MY (three semi-young) KIDS WILL EAT (semi-voluntarily)

Cheese Pizza (Why is this pizza square? It tastes yucky! The crust is too thick! The crust is too thin! Too much cheese! Not enough cheese!) (What is that on my pizza?) It’s just a small fleck of seasoning. (Ahhhhhh! I hate this pizza!)

Pasta with Butter (Why is this pasta not round???) Only certain geometric shapes and only if it’s real butter. I substitute margarine all the time and they can’t tell shi#. (Why is there blood in my pasta?) Absolutely no tomato sauce!!!!

Lemonade (I hate pink lemonade! Oh, I like pink lemonade!! It tastes so much better than lemon lemonade!!!)

Water (Water is boring…I’m thirsty!!!!!!! Do we have any water?)

More Lemonade (I hate pink lemonade!!! I only want pink lemonade from now on!)

Macaroni and Cheese (but not too much cheese, or too much macaroni!)(I…pause…don’t like this macaroni!) Why not? It’s no different from any other I’ve served you. (It…tastes…different.) That’s because it’s actually made with real cheese instead of processed cheese. (I don’t like it!) (Can I have dessert now?)

Candy (can I have a Reece’s cup?) (Can I have a Reece’s cup without the peanut butter?)(Can you open this for me?)

More Candy…M&M’s (I only like the red  ones…they taste yummy!)(But, I want the red ones! Whaaaa!) Aaaargh!!!

Popsicles Only if sponsored by super heroes, otherwise…(these are yucky!)

Even more Candy (these gummy bears are too gummy!) (Why do lifesavers have holes in them? I hate holes!)

Ice Cream (Vanilla or Cookies and Cream!) God forbid you buy chocolate chip!

Crackers Graham crackers, but not cinnamon graham crackers! (I hate cinnamon!!!) Well I’ve been putting it on your waffles every morning for the past 4 years. (Yea, but I don’t like it on crackers.)(Actually I don’t think I like waffles anymore!)(Can I have a waffle?)

Cheese (This cheese tastes weird). Well, it’s sliced from a larger piece of cheese that is the same as the grated cheese you are used to. (I don’t like it) OK, I’ll grate it for you. (I still don’t like it!). Aarrrrgh!

Popcorn (Is this microwave popcorn?) No. (I only like microwave popcorn!)(I hate butter!)(Can you add butter?)(I love your homemade popcorn!)(It’s too salty!)(Can you add salt?)

Hamburgers (This is too thick! This is too thin! The bun is too soft! The bun is too hard! I wanted cheese! I hate cheese!)(I hate hamburgers, I want chicken nuggets) (I hate chicken nuggets…I wanted a cheeseburger!)

Curse thee, Chicken McFuckinNuggets!!!!!


Everything else on the planet. You could take them to the largest and most delicious food buffet in the universe, and they will make a big fuss and then when you get them back to the hotel room (after hurrying through your meal), they immediately scream 

“I’m hungry!

OK, what do you want?”

I dunno?”

I haven’t tasted a green vegetable in over two months…and I’ve definitely lost some hair. But I think they actually like hair…but only if it’s fried. Go figure!